Feminine/Masculine Energy Balance

This is a summary of my notes and thoughts for a workshop at a "Wimmin's Conference for Men and Women". Almost all of the things which I am going to say are my own "far from humble" opinions, beliefs, experiences, and visions. This does not mean that others, including yourself, have not also felt these ideas. Nor does it mean that I experienced them in a vacuum.

Feminine/Masculine Energy Imbalance

Nothing I am going to say is intended, in any way, to minimize or excuse the absolutely unacceptable torment, violence, cruelty, degradation, objectification, etc. which feminine energy has experienced for the past several millennium on this planet.

I said feminine energy, not women, on purpose. While it is undeniable that most of the overt manifestations of this "suppression" has been focused directly on women, it is also true that the covert "devaluation" of the feminine energy has been focused on men, as well as, women. The continuing barrage of statements like, "Don't cry", "Quit acting like a girl", "Don't be a sissy", offers the psychological conditioning to all of us that feminine energy is weaker, undesirable, or insulting. And this psychological conditioning has "set the stage" for the "atrocities" which occur.

In many cases, we look for our "value" as people in what we do or how we look. As compared to who we are. This is "simply" a manifestation of the out of balance masculine energy which has been "dominating" the planet for the past several thousand years. This is not something "just" men do either, women do it too. To ourselves and to each other. We look for our happiness/worth in our relationships or our next relationship, our job, our "status", our "looks", our figure
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"We cannot look to the world to restore our worth, we are here to restore our worth to the world." (Marianne Williamson, A Woman's Worth)

It is not "surprising" that many of us were raised in dysfunctional families, we are living in a very dysfunctional society.

Some of us have made an error in imagining that powerful and masculine were synonymous. As women, those of us who know we are powerful, have many times manifested that power in masculine energy ways. We, obviously, can be just as tough, just as strong, as men. But that is not necessarily the point, there is already too much masculine energy. We do not "need" women manifesting like more masculine energy. Rather, we have an opportunity, women and men, to bring the energy of the planet into balance by being and supporting what is powerful and feminine, in addition to what is powerful and masculine. This does not mean that we need to "lose" or "stop" our ability to thrive in what is still a masculine energy dominated planet. What it means is that we have a opportunity and a responsibility to stand for what is powerful and feminine. Powerful women have an opportunity and responsibility to lead with heart, not like "men" in drag. And men with a balance of feminine energy have an opportunity to be powerful and balanced.

Powerful feminine energy is wild and fierce and beautiful.

The "Lottery" Approach

It seems, somehow that many of us have "unconsciously" adopted a "Lottery" belief about Life, love and "success". "Your chances of being ecstatic are 1 in 257,000,000". This "belief" creates an illusion that someone else's "success" reduces or limits your "chances" of happiness. And equally insidious, there seems to be a tendency to "hide" our own glory, because if you are "too" happy than others will not "like" you or will try to "tear you down".

We feel this way because it happens.

Have you ever overheard, or even been part of a conversation that went "Wow, look at her, isn't she beautiful?", "Yea, and she knows it". What does that mean? Is there some reason that it is "not okay" to know that you are beautiful? What are we saying to each other and ourselves?

Or, "I think you are getting too big for your britches" or, "Who does he think he is?"

An ecstatic honest answer is that we do think/feel that we are magnificent, wonderful, special beings, each one of us, and thank you very much. And an important part is that my being special does not in any way reduce, or threaten, or limit your specialness. In fact, the more of us who accept our responsibility to be glorious, the easier it is for each of us to be glorious.

How many of you remember "knowing" that you were special when you were younger, like four or five years old? How many of you believe that now? How many of you live your lives as if you believe it is true that you are glorious?

When we let go of this "lottery" belief, we will be free to encourage and support each other.

Our first responsibility is to continually move/grow/evolve to be the most joyful, sincere, ecstatic, powerful being we are able to be. Then our relationships can be opportunities to offer support and encouragement for each other's magnificence. If your relationships do not help you remember that you are glorious, than you might want to question your relationships and why you continue them.

Partners

As partners on this planet, not necessarily sexual partners but energy partners, women and men, have become unbalanced. It does not really matter right now "how it started", it matters that it is happening and that women and men perpetuate this imbalance. Shame, blame, and guilt are part of what keeps us "stuck" in this dynamic. The past is the past. It provides us with an opportunity to look at it, analyse it, understand it, grow from it, forgive and then move on.

As partners, when masculine and feminine energies became separated, men have carried forward one aspect of what we used to share and honor together, and women have carried forward another aspect. Both of these aspects have become grossly distorted as a result of the domination of the planet by out of balance masculine energy. Both men and women know in their souls that the aspect they carry is very important.

Men carry sexuality, women carry passion/compassion. (This is a vast simplification)

With the energy imbalance, sexuality has been manifesting as, and/or been accused of being, "unconscious sex", and passion/compassion has been manifesting as, and/or been accused of being, "hysteria".

We have an opportunity and a responsibility to heal this imbalance. To restore what is powerful and feminine to the world.

I invite each of you to feel in your hearts and bellies, what is true for you in these words. And to accept the opportunity to be truly magnificent. To radiate all the glory within you, and to support and encourage others around you to radiate all of their glory, so that the Earth and all of the beings on and within the Earth can thrive.