The following is a brief collection of random thoughts on a concept of 21st Century Alphas. I am working on a book which is/will be much more detailed/comprehensive/interconnected. The basic premise is that alpha skills/traits are valuable assets and alpha folks have arrived at an opportunity to evolve the ways in which those skills/traits are manifested.

I am interested in any feedback, discussion, and/or ideas you might have and would like to share.

Alpha Traits

Strength
flexibility
insight
adaptability
cell deep commitment to the health and vitality of the pack/tribe/family

Historic Perspectives

For 20,000 years (I made this number up), in response to the environment alphas found themselves within, these traits have manifested fairly consistently as aggression, domination of "weaker" members and other species, "survival of the fittest", territorialism, protectiveness of young and female mates, possessiveness, and parochialism.

These are not intended to be negative portrayals. These manifestations have in fact, "worked" more or less, and have brought us to where we are now.

Koya-ni-skotzi

A native Hopi term meaning "Life out of balance, in need of a change"

Transition Times and Gateways

For a while now, alpha humans have been wandering past signposts indicating a road to major transitions in how alphas manifest alpha traits. . . . one could trace this "while" to any number of "perfectly reasonable" points:

the industrial revolution,
the birth of the consumer oriented disposable society,
the substitution of science for religion, as a dominant belief system,
the concept of a mechanical nature of nature,
the switch from hunter/gatherer to agriculture,
the "breaking up" of the nuclear family,
the increasing "failure" of lifetime monogamous relationships,
the coalition of feminism,
6.6 billion people on the planet.

Whatever the major turning/evolving points may have been/are/will be, we appear to have arrived at a realm where major transition is both possible and necessary.

Not Just a Bigger Hammer

Alpha strength has become a negative dynamic in our society, not because alpha strength is no longer necessary, but because the way alpha strength has been manifested for the past 20,000 years (remember, I made this number up) is no longer effective as a method of promoting the health and vitality of the pack/tribe/family. Alphas themselves have generally become over-reliant on their strength to accomplish their goals. As a result, we have few remaining examples/models of balanced alphas to learn from. Alphas need to remember and exercise their other trait of insight, flexibility and adaptability to conceive of, experiment with, and implement new systems which can respond to the new environment (natural, social, economic) we find ourselves within.

Alphas presently have a challenge and an opportunity to imagine, practice, and implement new methods of manifesting alpha traits. For the first time in our recorded/remembered history it is imperative that these traits be manifested in truly new ways. Not just a bigger hammer! In order to move towards sustainability alphas have an opportunity to create themselves as completely new tools after 20,000 years.

The Frog in Boiling Water Syndrome - A True Story

If one places a frog in a pan of cold water and then places the pan on the fire, the frog will continue to swim around in the gradually heating water until it dies.

If one drops a frog into a pan of boiling water the frog will do everything it can to get out.

Ribbit!!

21st Century Alpha "Skills"

consensus for one
radical honesty
100% responsibility
compassion
intentionality/willfulness
cooperative "problem solving"
~ energy matching/balancing
collaboration

Miscellaneous Thoughts

On Learning/Growing/Evolving

* "Our lessons can come as easily as we are willing to learn them."

* Six "steps" one can follow when one wishes to "set aside" a previous dynamic. Upon recognizing the dynamic and your dissatisfaction with it:

explore what it is that you do not enjoy about the dynamic, (i.e., you do not enjoy the way people respond to you, you do not enjoy the way you feel when you "do it", etc.)
investigate why it is that you set up or established this particular tendency, (to shield yourself from ridicule when you were a child, to keep your parents amused so that they would not fight, eic.)
appreciate your younger self for having the ability to establish the tendency as a defense mechanism when you needed it, (a much younger manifestation of you did the did the best they could with what they had to work with at the time.)
observe and acknowledge what you have learned as a result of living within and recognizing this dynamic,
imagine what you want to do and how you want to do it now,
be gentle, patient, appreciative, and supportive of yourself as you practice consciously creating yourself as a new person each day.

* We are doing the best we can with what we have to work with. This includes everything.

* There are no mistakes.

* There is no such thing as coincidence.

* What you do in and with your life is none of my business. This does not limit or restrict anyone from choosing to work together for mutual benefit.

On Our Nature

"We are born knowing that we are powerful and beautiful."

It takes, on average, the first three or four years of our life for this knowledge of magnificence to be "buried" or set aside. We bury this knowledge because we are very intelligent and terminally adaptable and it does not take long to notice that waking around knowing that you are powerful and beautiful is not very well accepted. Following the example of those around us, many of us adopt various postures of low self esteem. Yet behind the apparent dynamic of low self esteem lurks/lingers this knowledge/remembrance of our glory. Two significant and apparently contradictory realities exist within many of us simultaneously. One is the various manifestations of low self esteem. Self deprecation, excessive shyness, rescuing, tyrants, bullies, "know it alls", do gooders, clowns, etc. It is the "discrepancy" between these two realms; our actions/mannerisms of whatever low self esteem dynamic we have chosen to model (and protect ourselves with) and the energy of our knowledge that we are spectacular (and when is everyone else going to recognize and acknowledge that) which fosters a good bit of the "rub/intolerance" of others personalities and growing edges

* If you are having difficulty recognizing the difference between the two, consider throwing out the baby with the bath water. It not really very dangerous, as you will very quickly know which is which. The bath water will drain away and the baby will still be there, usually crying.

* Knights in Shining Armor/Nights in Shining Amour, the male and female aspect of the rescuer.

* A really amusing/amazing aspect of the evolution of personal consciousness is that frequently one does not change what one has a "natural tendency" to do, one changes where one is coming from when one does it. If one has a tendency to "help" others, as one's consciousness continuingly evolves, one's understanding/perception of what "helping" actually is evolves also. Rescuing and enabling get "set aside" in favor of support.

On Compromise

It is my belief that compromise is not a "great" starting place for a conversation or negotiation. Perhaps we could make every effort first to devise a way, or ways, for each party to have exactly what they want. After all avenues to find this solution have been "exhausted", then if the parties want to they can agree to compromise, or they can separate their "projects" so that they can each do what seems "best" to them.

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